Sometimes I catch myself wondering if I actually want a relationship or if I just like the idea of one.
You know, the late-night texts, the cuddles on the couch, someone remembering how I take my coffee.
But then I think… do I want the real stuff too?
Like arguments about bills, or figuring out whose turn it is to clean the bathroom.
It’s so easy to dream about love without asking if I’m actually ready for it.
When It Feels Like A Movie
We’ve all had that crush that made everything feel like a rom-com.
The butterflies when their name pops up, the way a playlist suddenly becomes all about them, even how walking down the street feels cinematic because you’re replaying that one perfect date in your head. It’s intoxicating.
And honestly, it’s addictive. I’ve definitely been guilty of holding onto a vibe or a feeling instead of looking at who the person actually was.
The problem is, the high fades.
At some point, it’s not a movie anymore—it’s real life. And real life asks, “Do I like this person when things are boring, messy, or just… normal?”
That’s the part we sometimes skip, and it’s why so many of us confuse fantasy with real love.
When Reality Sneaks In
On the flip side, real relationships don’t always sparkle.
Sometimes they’re just two tired people eating takeout in sweatpants and scrolling TikTok on the couch.
And weirdly enough, that’s when you see what you’ve actually got.
Does it feel comfortable? Safe?
Do they still make you laugh even when everything is kind of dull?
I used to think that was settling—like, shouldn’t love feel intense all the time?
But now I realize that real love isn’t about the constant fireworks. It’s about whether someone shows up when you’re anxious, when you’re sick, or when life is a mess.
And yeah, it’s not glamorous, but it’s the part that lasts.
So what about you—are you chasing the fantasy or are you ready for the real thing?
Take the quiz and find out where you actually land.
