Sometimes I wonder what people really think when they’re around me. Like, we all know what they say—“you’re so fun,” “you’re so sweet,” blah blah—but what’s the vibe they actually feel? Do I make them relaxed, or do I accidentally overwhelm them?
I keep replaying random moments in my head: that time at brunch when I cracked jokes nonstop, or when I zoned out and someone asked if I was upset. It’s so confusing sometimes.
When You’re “Too Much” Or “Not Enough”
It’s funny because sometimes people see you as the girl who lights up the room, the one who makes everything more fun. And yeah, that’s flattering… until you realize they expect you to always be “on.”
Like, can’t I just sit there eating fries without feeling like the group mascot? On the flip side, when I lean into my quiet side, people get all weird, like I’m upset or distant. But honestly?
Sometimes I’m just tired. I don’t always have to sparkle. There was literally a moment at work when I didn’t say much during a meeting and someone DMed me later like, “Are you okay?”
And I was like, yes, I’m fine, I’m just a human who doesn’t have something to say every second.
It’s such a weird balance—wanting to be authentic without letting people’s expectations box you in.
The Different Versions Of Us
What really messes with my head is how people project stuff onto you. Some friends tell me I feel grounding, like they can spill all their drama and I’ll hold it. Others think I’m mysterious just because I didn’t overshare on day one.
And then there are moments I’m the “fun one” again, making dumb TikTok jokes. Same person, totally different versions depending on who you ask.
Once, someone even told me, “You’re like four people in one, and I never know which one’s going to show up.”
At first I wasn’t sure if it was a compliment or low-key shade, but maybe it’s both. It’s wild—sometimes I feel like a mirror for people’s expectations instead of just… me.
And maybe that’s normal, but it also makes me wonder: which version feels the truest to other people?
So now I’m curious—what’s the actual vibe people secretly pick up from me?
Wanna find out for yourself too?
